online dating: things to think about before you even sign up

 

Know what type of relationship/arrangements you want before you start looking

People go on dating sites for a number of different reasons, you’d be a fool to think everyone on a dating site wants to actually date (ridiculous I know).  I would say before you even sign up for a dating site have an idea of what it is your’e looking for and that will help you choose the right place for you. Not much good going on an adult arrangement focused site if you want to settle down as you’ll more than likely not find someone after the same. I would also say be honest about what you’re looking for when you make a profile, If you’re genuinely looking for something long term , say so! no point leaving it unticked in the fear of scaring people off.

Be yourself!

I think too many people use an about me section as a place to sell themselves and I think those sound the most false. I love a profile that is honest and  feels like a friend talking to me rather than a list of how awesome someone thinks they are. I try to include a charming flaw or two to show that I am a real person and I like to let people politely know what things I find a turn off as I believe there is no point in wasting their time or my own. I am that way in real life so my online dating profile reflects that.

Know how far you’re willing to travel

I used to go on to online dating sites and cast my net far and wide and then i’d get really annoyed that everyone I was getting along with seemed to be a little too far to realistically date. After a couple of failed semi long distance relationships and moving half way across the country for my last serious relationship, I now cast a much smaller net. I feels so much better when I start getting to know someone and I know that they are local enough to grab a drink or dinner with on wednesday after work rather than having to plan dates weeks in advance. Again that is just my preference but I think this is something that should be considered before starting to get to know someone… are you unable or unwilling to move for love?

Don’t take online dating too seriously

Honestly I think this is one of the most important things to remember. Have fun and don’t take everything too seriously until you’re really getting to know someone you’re going to meet. dating online, people tend to imitate ghosts and vanish just when you think you’re getting on really well. Don’t be offended and please don’t take it personally it happens sooo regularly people even write articles on online ‘ghosting’. I think the process of online dating should be fun, I love meeting new people and I love chatting to different types of people. Through online dating I have made some great friends and have had some very very loving relationships that I wouldn’t change for the world. I definitely think it is something to enjoy so if at any time you’re not enjoying it stop doing it. There should be no pressure to find the perfect person right this second, it shouldn’t be something you rush.

I kind of expect to on and off the dating scene for years to come because I enjoy new experiences and new relationships with new people, its not for everyone but the resources are out there for everyone to find love at any age, specialised Over 50s dating sites are super popular at the moment and just like I mentioned in a previous dating post they have sites by location to suit everyone from over 50s dating Hampshire to over 50s dating Cumbria

So whatever age you are or hot much experience you have dating online or of it isn’t ‘dating’ specifically that you’re looking for, the Internet is a fantastic way to meet a multitude of people to choose from to get to know.

These tips are just things that I have learnt from my experiences using many online dating sites but definitely find out what world for you and I wish you all the luck and fun!

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