Cosmo Questions…





Ok, so Claire Chattermonkey suggested a few bloggers answer the ‘What being a fat woman is really like’ questions from the recent Cosmopolitan article.
Loads of plus size bloggers asked to be involved including me…o below I have answered all of the questions that were asked.
I think its a great idea and a really good way for us bloggers and to get to know each other and for our readers to get an insight into what we are like.
*I will be linking all the other bloggers who took part below*


So here we go!!


How do you feel when other women around you complain about feeling/being fat?
I hear it so much it just makes me roll my eyes and I now refrain from commenting. I am very confident at my size (30/32) So it doesn’t really bother me. I do however look around to gauge other peoples reactions to the comments. Mostly its looks of horror like ‘you cant say that around her, she is way fatter’ lol. I just don’t think people consider other peoples self image when complaining about their own looks.





How has your body image changed since high school? College?

My body image has changed greatly since I was in College. I was very unhappy with my size at that age. The size I was in my late teens is not completely dissimilar to the size and shape I am now. What a lot of people don’t know is that I gained a lot of weight after leaving education and have lost it again, so being this size again is wonderful to me. I don’t know if it is just compared to how I was when I was bigger or if it is because I am older and a lot more comfortable with myself in general. Either way there is a world of difference in how I see myself now approx. 12 years on. I accept my body for exactly what it is, I wear what I like and act how I like and I think that’s the way it should be.







Have you tried dieting? What happened?

Yes.
I remember being put on my first diet at the age of 11 years old.
As an adult I have tried various diets but nothing has ever stuck. I have lost and gained bit and bobs here and there but never had a substantial weight loss until about 3-4 years ago.
I do believe that you have to really want to lose weight for yourself if you are ever to succeed. I am very well aware of what needs to be done to lose weight and I think its a common misconception that fat people don’t have a clue how to lose weight when I think a lot of fat people know better than anyone. I am at a stage in my life where I am the most happy I have ever been, I am not at my biggest or smallest but am definitely my most content.



Do you think in your case your weight is partly or entirely genetic?
I will be completely honest here and say I don’t know. All of the adult women in my family on both sides are fat. Growing up that’s what all the women looked like. I don’t know if I am genetically predisposed to being fat or not. It is shown everyday that people can lose weight and I am strongly behind the statement that if you have a problem with being overweight then you should make the necessary steps to get to where you personally feel most comfortable and happy. I also think that people need to get the idea out of their heads that all fat people are unhappy






Do you consider yourself healthy? Have there been instances where people assumed you were unhealthy?
No, I don’t consider myself to be healthy, but that is not solely to do with my weight, I am a lot healthier than I was a couple of years ago and I am very happy about that. As I get older I feel I will need to pay closer attention to my health as with anyone else.
It is expected that people will assume that all of us fat people are unhealthy because that’s what they have been taught, despite the fact that you cant see someone’s health just by looking at them, some idiots think that Fat is a health condition in and of itself.
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Are your parents both supportive of you at the weight you’re at? Have they always been?

My mum is a plus size woman as her mother was and so on.
Both my parents were concerned about my weight when I was younger and tried everything they could to help me lose weight whether that be taking me to a slimming class or just voicing their concerns about health risk etc.
When I was quite a bit heavier than I am now my whole family had a lot to say about it, but like I said earlier no amount of interference from others will make it happen unless you make the decision yourself to make things happen and that goes with many things in life.
At 29 and the weight I am now I have the full support of my whole family but I think that’s mainly because they can see how happy I am and that outweighs anything else and I feel exactly the same I’m just really enjoying life, love and cake…everything else can wait til later,



How do you think retailers can improve clothes for plus-size people?
I don’t really know what to say here because if I was asked this a few years ago it would have been a page full of complaints, but I think plus size fashion has come a really long way in recent years.
I think more companies are getting on board the plus size wagon and shopping is a lot of fun whereas a few years ago it was an absolute nightmare. especially for girls that are at the larger end of plus size. The only problem I have is companies doing plus size ranges up to a size 24, I feel like if your gonna take the plunge and offer bigger sizes you need to go all in. There is nothing worse than hearing about a new brand offering plus sizes then discovering they are just not plus enough. Saying that though over the Christmas season I was looking for a party dress and I had so many options I had to make a dress shortlist, that can only be good news in my book.



Do you think plus-size women are judged differently than plus-sized men are? How?

I think there is a stigma attached to being fat in general, but I do think women get the worst of it when it comes to fat discrimination. Big men up to a certain point are seen as manly and when women are even slightly over weight they are just fat. In terms of relationships and finding a partner I think society believes bigger men are more attractive than bigger women and therefore struggle less to find partners. I feel that large men have the same insecurities that a lot of large women have and I think the lack of confidence plays a big part in how attractive they feel and how attracted people are to them.



Do you think there’s an assumption made/stereotype that exists about plus-size people? How would you respond to it?

Of course.
People assume that fat people are all lazy slobs that spend the majority of their time sitting around eating. I think that’s ridiculous. I know a lot of fat people that have great jobs and great families and have achieved wonderful things in their lives. but more importantly I know a lot of fat people who are genuinely really happy with exactly who they are and I think that lends to doing great things and having the confidence to do whatever they want to in life. I am fat and I work in the beauty industry, an industry that I was told that I wouldn’t be easily accepted into. I work on my feet and travel all around for work. This is what makes me hate peoples assumptions because I shouldn’t have to explain what I do to change peoples minds about me.



Do you think there’s ever a right way or time to express concern about someone’s weight?

(might be a bit controversial but….) Yes
I have a lot of people that I care about and If there was something that I was genuinely concerned about I would mention it to them, that doesn’t mean I would be nasty about it or try to make them feel small, but I do think certain relationships are solid enough that two people can have an honest and frank conversation. That being said I don’t think there would need to be an intervention unless that person was seriously putting themselves at risk.




What are the worst things people have said to you about your body?
I have never really experienced any major bullying, the odd comment in a nightclub, the old whispering ‘omg look at her’, ‘fat bitch’ etc… No real specific instance that has stuck in my mind but yeah for years I was very aware of the stares and little comments.




How did you respond?
When I was younger peoples comments used to really upset me to the point that I just wanted to stay home to avoid it.
I wish I knew then what I know now, and that is that they never really mattered. I don’t know if this makes sense but I think I get those comments less now because I carry myself differently and I think that they can tell that I love who I am so it would kinda be pointless.
When comments are made when I’m alone or out with plus size friends I kinda just giggle to myself at how immature they are. I kinda feel bad that they aren’t as content with their lives as I am.






What have people said (or do you wish they’d say) that would compliment your body or appearance?
People say nice things about my body and appearance all the time (god that sounds so conceited) but again I think its because of the way I carry myself. I am very confident and that translates in the way I dress and do my makeup etc.. I love getting dressed up and going out, what girl doesn’t like to look pretty.





Do you find yourself hanging out with women who are closer to your size?
I have fat friends and thin friends. Having recently gotten into plus size fashion blogging I have been meeting more and more fat girls and I love it. One of my closest friends is a fat girl who wears the same dress size as me. She is amazing and I love her dearly and we would totally still be friends if she was skinny but being able to share wardrobes is the best bonus ever!!! lol





How has your weight affected your sex life, if at all?

Not at all lol.
It may have prevented me from starting til I was 21, but since then not at all.





When you’ve been single, has your weight affected your dating life?

No, when I was single I has full length body pictures on any online dating profiles and when meeting people on nights out etc. they could plainly see what I look like.
I actually really enjoyed dating and meeting new people, my weight was never an issue as they always knew exactly what they were getting. The only thing my weight would have affected is the types of guys that were attracted to me.



Do you feel weird if the guy you’re with only dates larger women?
I have very strong views when it comes to this subject. It really irks me when women say that guys who only date big women have a fetish. I think that’s ridiculous when its perfectly normal for a man to prefer blondes or women with bigger busts. A woman who has a preference for a man with a beard is not seen as having a fetish. It is purely about preference. I have dated men who prefer big girls and I have dated men who have never dated a plus size woman before me. I actually prefer men who are more attracted to bigger girls as they have seen it all before and can appreciate all of you and they are no longer worried about their friends and families opinions.





Do you feel weird if he’s only dated slimmer women before you?

I have dated men who have never been with a plus size woman before and I must admit have been a little worried about surprising them with just how much woman I actually am but all that goes away once you get to know each other better. I would hate to wonder if the person likes me so much that they would put up with my weight. My boyfriend has a preference for big girls, always has, that’s just his type. I want someone to love every single thing about me and I have that.

Other bloggers who took part…. *CLICK NAME*

Claire
Naomi
Sian
Rebecca
Michaela
Lolly
Betty
Gina
Debz
Becky Barnes
Nat
Emma
Vicky
Michelle
Becky Brown
Amanda 
Elena
Anne-Lise  
Steph                 

Cass                 
 
 

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Giveaway!!!! Miraclesuit swimsuit – Size 20

woooooo!!!


This is my first ever Giveaway and I’m really excited!

The Miraclesuit swimsuits retail for over £100, here you are given a chance to nab one just by entering my giveaway.
*This giveaway is for UK entrants only, Sorry*


Patricia Eve are providing one lucky winner with a Miraclesuit Swimsuit and a spa gift set.


“Miraclesuit is the original control swimwear with a tagline of “Look 10lbs Lighter in 10 Seconds”. The secret is in the fabric it is made from – an innovative fabric called Miratex which has 3 times more spandex than the average control swimsuit.  And with no extra bulky layers of panels under the costume you can look great and feel amazing!”




a Rafflecopter giveaway

Other styles of Miraclesuit Swimsuit can be found here

This is the swimsuit that you will win. (sorry I couldn’t get a better picture) you will also receive a spa gift set… so what are you waiting for……

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Pretty Polkadot Polly Pieces.

Polka Dot Polly Love
Over the Xmas period Polka Dot Polly was having an incredible advent calendar sale.
I had never ordered from them before so I decided to pick up a custom made piece of each, a dress, a top and a skirt.
The dress that I ordered was a deep red with small polka dots, when it came in the post I was soooo excited, I haven’t been able to find anything in a style like this in my size and it is so beautifully made. The shape of the bodice is not the one that I had wanted but unfortunately after reviewing my measurements I was told that this one was the only on that was going to work.
I think the style of bodice on this dress actually works to my advantage in that it makes my boobs look incredible!!!!!! lol
The seam across the back sits quite a bit higher than I would like but to save on having it altered I will be wearing it with a bolero or some such appropriate garment. I got this dress custom made for me with my choice of fabric and choice of skirt style for only £40.
Boobies!!!!!!!

I absolutely love the full circle skirt. I love how flowy it is and it makes me feel like a princess every time I move.
I went for the circle skirt again when I ordered the second outfit. This deal was a top and skirt set for only £25, again in their special Xmas calendar sale.   
I looks miserable…but I’m not…see next pic lol 
For the top I chose a fabric with a bit of stretch as my boobs are kinda huge and I didn’t want it too tight, if I’m honest I wasn’t really interested in the top when I was ordering, I just wanted a really nicely made cotton circle skirt in my size (which I still cant find anywhere else) so the top was just a bonus. saying that I am really happy with the top as it does look lovely with the skirt.
The skirt is really nice quality heavy cotton (I’m guessing from the sheer quantity of fabric that was used) I would definitely have paid the £25 for the skirt alone, which is probably why I see the top as a bonus.
The skirt reminds me of being a little girl wanting what I used to call a ‘spin around skirt’  
I love how much fabric they used to get the full circle skirt effect which I thought would be lacking in skirt in my size.
I will definitely keeping an eye out to see when they have a sale again as I would love another skirt… maybe in an adventurous print next time.
You really must check out their fabric selection… its amazing! They have so may different food prints and character prints…you could really have a lot of fun designing something beautiful and more importantly made to last.  
*I ordered and paid for these items myself, these were not sent to me for review.*
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Cutesey cutesy pony day feat. My little ‘My little pony’ Jumper

Cutesey cutesy pony day…
The whole reason I started this blog was to say a massive F U to clothing sizes.
In this outfit of the Day I have on a my little pony jumper that I picked up in Primark, this jumper is a UK size 20 and I am not!
The jumper is tighter than perhaps the designers had imagined it should be but I really like it and don’t feel uncomfortable in it at all.
I wore this out fit to the Plus London Plus size market evening last month
I wore my Bete Noire Unicorn necklace with it which I think looked really cute together. Available here
Sticking to the theme I have on Airborne Unicorn lipstick from lime crime.   
I’m wearing a waffle skater skirt that I got in the Pink Clove sale for only a fiver.
I have on my Camden boots from new look and a pair of tights.  
Please guys… tell me about any places you have found where you can completely disregard the size labels, I’m very interested to know.
I love turning oversized items in to Lucia sized items! <3  
Once again… thanks for reading x
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OneOneThree Fashion Show and my OOTN

OneOneThree Fashion Show and my OOTN
Recently I have been going to as many fashion events as I can, so when I heard about the oneonethree fashion show that was taking place on Monday I made sure I got tickets. I was already aware of the brand and have a few pieces from their current collection so I was excited to see what they had coming next.
As you are all aware I tend not to pay too much attention to clothing sizes and generally wear whatever I like, oneonethree pieces go up to a size 26 in most of their items and I wear a size 30/32 but the items of theirs that I do have fit very well.
Group shot of the models in the collection. 
Unfortunately I was unable to get very many pictures of the collection due to lighting etc.. but I’m sure there will be pictures of the collection available through social media.
The collection was very punk rock inspired (well at least it appeared that way to me) I liked the edginess of the collection and am really looking forward to seeing how people style some of the individual pieces. I feel the collection leaves a lot of room for interpretation which can be excellent for appealing to a wider demographic.
I saw a lot of leather and tartan on the catwalk and felt like I fit right in with my red and black ASOS curve midi skirt and new look leatherette jacket.
My crop top is a piece I got from H&M last year and is a UK size 16 (u cant wear that! lol)
The top is advertised and sold as over size which means that it fits me perfectly as a ‘my size’ crop top.
I love this top that reads ‘Find me backstage’ which is really appropriate as I am a makeup artist by trade and am usually found backstage at events like this.
Me in the venue
I am wearing my simply be extra wide calf fitting boots as it was absolutely freezing that evening.
 
This is a picture of me with my younger sister, who I took along with me to the show. I kept the makeup simple with winged liner and a classic red lip, MAC’s RiRi Woo  
Thought I would throw in my Instagram filtered pic as I really like it, this was taken while waiting for the doors to open for the show.
The show took place at the Metalworks in Angel, Islington.
There was a piece in the collection that I absolutely loved, Its a multicoloured (what almost looks like stained glass) jersey maxi dress. Unfortunately I don’t have a pic of it but I will definitely blog about it when its up on the site.
Thank you all for reading once again xxx
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Blooming good tights!

Blooming Good Tights! 
Last week I was really kindly sent a pair of cotton tights from The Big Bloomers Company, I was really excited about this because this is the first time I have ever seen thick cotton tights available in such a large size. Normally tights that are advertised as being in my size I still struggle with but I was assured but Laura from the company that they are really really stretchy. …And they are… when I received them and took them out of the packet I was so surprised at just how much stretch there was to them and because they are so thick the they don’t turn transparent.
These are so perfect for the cold months that we are experiencing at the moment. 

The tops of my legs are massive and I thought I would have trouble getting the tights up high enough, the brief part of the tights could have come up higher but that is purely due to my mega thighs but is not a issue for me at all as I wont be wearing them with any mini skirts lol 
The waistband of the tights are pulled up really high and is really stretchy and comfortable and is not tight at all in the slightest.
I got these tights in the largest size available as I wear a size 32 and they are perfect, they are so comfortable and well made, I wasn’t concerned about ruining them while putting them on or sitting down carefully so I didn’t burst out of them lol
These tights have provided me with a welcome break from wearing leggings with everything and I still get to have warm legs.
I am not a fan of thin tights at all as they always end up being one wear only as by the end of the night I have destroyed them. These cotton tights are a welcome addition to plus size fashion if you ask me and I will be shouting about them from the mountain tops!
I would say that this is the best pair of tights that I have ever owned and will be getting another pair asap. 
They have solved a problem for me that I know a lot of plus size women have, especially women at the higher end of plus size like I am.
These tights are available to purchase here
What other items would you all like to see available in plus size hosiery??
I’d quite like to see more patterned tights available in bigger sizes <3
Thanks for reading x
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A little late to the party!

Last weekend I had a nice little night in planned with my good friend Debz, a Wannabe Princess.
I dressed super casual, no makeup, ready for evening of Chinese food, snacks a plenty and a couple of DVD’s…. Silly me!!!!
I should know better than anyone just how impulsive and up for a night of fun Debz is. This is a pic story of how I went from casual night in, to Oh God we are off on a night out and I have no clothes or makeup!!!!!!!


 

How I looked when I turned up for our night in!

Never in my life have I been so grateful to have a fellow fatty as a friend!!!!! 
With permission of course, I headed off to Debz wardrobe in the hopes of finding something that I would wear with my trusty and ever so comfy Primark snuggly boots, and was still suitable for an impromptu night out with the gays.
I had completely forgot that she owned this dress and when I spotted it, it was a total ‘I hear angels singing’ moment.
 
When this dress was released on the Pink Clove website I fell in love wuth it (along with every other fat bird on the planet) As everyone was purchasing it I opted for the skater skirt in the same print, which I still love.
As soon as I put the dress on I hated myself for not buying it, I went straight for my phone and onto the Pink Clove website to buy one and being the unlucky lady that I am they no longer have this dress on their website :(  
Absolutely adore this dress…and the extreme boobage lol
Ok so with an outfit sorted I still had to make something out of my bare face. Luckily The Princess have a truckload of makeup which I got to play it and make myself look presentable. The only problem I had was not having any skin make up i.e. foundation or concealer. But I made do and did a sweet beat on myself.   
Make up I did for my night out- no skin makeup and eyeshadow done using my fingers lol.
I had an amazing night by anyone’s standards and am so glad we decided to go out in the end, again having a friend that wears the same size clothes as I do is a bloody miracle that I am oh so grateful for.
Has anyone had nights like this where you have to throw yourself together and are still really happy with the outcome?
do you have plus size friends that you can share clothes with?
I would love to hear similar stories to this as this was definitely new to me, but something I think could be fun to do again.
As always Thanks for taking the time to read Honeys xxx
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My personal best bargain ever!

I recently went to the Plus London plus size market evening. I was really excited to be going as a seller and a bargain hunter.  I was initially concerned that I wouldn’t find anything fat enough for me but fortunately I left with quite a few pieces that I will be sharing with you over the coming posts here.
This one I have to say I am the happiest with, it is such a versatile piece and I want to wear it all the time with everything and in my eyes that is reason enough to warrant a blog post all of its own.
However the best part is that I picked it up for only 50p.
I’m gonna say that one more time because even I still can’t believe it… I got this beautiful maroon oversized and deliciously comfy cardi FOR JUST 50p!!!!
It is a Jeffrey and Paula slouch cardigan that I bought from fellow blogger Chattermonkey (check out her blog here)
She initially showed it to me because it was one of her items that was roomy as I approached her table saying “Show me the mega fat stuff!”
I have to admit I bought it because it was big enough and because it was an absolute steal at fifty pence. However when I got it home and had a try on and a good look at the shape I was sooooooo excited.  I love the slouchyness of it and how I am able to just throw it on with anything and I also love the colour.

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OOTD Pink clove wrap dress.

I placed an order with Pink Clove around Christmas and one of the items I picked up was the Geo print wrap dress.
I thought about this item quite a lot before I ordered it as it’s not really my style, it’s very grown up and sophisticated but I really really like the colours in the dress for winter.
Thought I would do a quick OOTD post about this dress as it’s still only £10 in the pink clove sale!!!!

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OOTN – Rent review by a fatshion blogger.

Last night I went to see Rent on stage at the Hackney Empire in My home town of London.  I have been a massive (pun intended) fan of rent for a while now, I have the dvd of the Broadway play and the dvd movie. When I heard from a friend that Rent in concert was showing in London for 3 nights I nearly had a fit so we booked tickets for the next night. Every which way I have seen Rent my favourite character has always been ‘Angel’, A beautiful transvestite who I think just seems like so much fun and is funny as all hell. I love musicals but don’t really get to see shows as much as I would like. Rent was one that I HAD TO SEE! The songs in this show are fantastic and there is not a single one that I don’t like which is not something I never say even with regular albums there are usually a couple of dud tracks…not in Rent (I had to sing along to all the songs really quietly lol) one of my favorite songs is “I’ll cover you” a duet between characters Angel and Collins, it’s the loveliest this ever so obviously I was crying like a baby during the whole song, mostly because I knew what was coming.

Seeing this play was one of the best experiences in my personal theatre history. As soon as it finished I vowed that I am going to see it again. 12 hours later I already have plans to see Rent again for my birthday in July in Derby, unfortunately I believe it will be a different cast. 

The voices in this production were absolutely sensational I was particularly impressed with Kerry Ellis playing ‘Mimi’ and Rory Taylor playing ‘Roger’, I have to say that Roger had never stood out vocally for me in the Broadway production or in the movie so I was very very pleasantly surprised to hear Rory Taylor’s voice last night. 

Of course ‘Angel’ being my favourite character I was hoping to be wowed by his vocals… and boy was I. Angel did not disappoint at all which had me smiley like a damn Cheshire cat. After the play finished and I had dried my eyes I headed out to my bus stop with my friend and sister, my sister spotted Ian Stroughair (Angel Dumott Schunard) pop out for a fag…so what did I do??? Took off running through traffic of course!!!! Well worth it it turns out as I got to have a picture with actor Ian Stroughair (below) 

It was definitely a night to remember and will not be my last outing to see Rent. 

oh yeah!!! Just remembered I’m a fashion blogger and not a theatre critic haha.
gonna keep this really short and simple… I wore my glove print skirt that l picked up in the evans sale just after xmas. I wore it with a roll neck t-shirt from new look inspire and a brand new pair of knee high boots from Simply Be that have larger calf widths. I will talk more about the boots in a separate post as they are the first pair I have been able to find to fit my massive calves. Then chucked on my Evans gold studded biker jacket cos its freezing in London at the moment. 

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