Meet me half way!
Now I’m a girl that can’t resist a pair of sexy heels and I also love a night out drinking and dancing with the girls (and guys) but I feel the two don’t do hand in hand.
I always end up taking a bigger handbag so I can stash a pair of flats for when the inevitable ‘ouch my feet kill’ moment hits.
A few of my heels
I went out to a club in a pair of 4 inch wedges and decided to leave the flats at home as I was so sure the wedge would be a safe choice…. how wrong I was!!!
So… I recently went on the hunt for a pair or partying heels and asked the universe to meet me halfway. I didn’t exactly know what I was looking for, probably some sort of midi heel but they all screamed GRANDMA!!!!!! That was until I got to New Look and found these….
Cue angels singing
The cutest black midi platform, I was so sure they were put there just for me as they are exactly what I needed, at first glace I thought the look a little clumpy but they are the perfect shoes for a night out. The platform gives you enough heel to still feel dresses up and girly but still keep your foot at a comfortable angle, and I feel like because my body is big the shoes doesn’t look so clumpy in comparison lol
I have super chubby feet so I had to cute the strap off as it was too tight but I still love the shoe and will be wearing them on a big night out this weekend for my birthday!(leaving the flats at home)
My new shoes without the straps
The Right to Bare Arms!
My arms have been an issue for me for as long as I remember, I always wear a cardigan or a shrug to cover them up. Even in the summer I choose to wear t-shirts instead of vests so that the tops of my arms are covered. At dinner a couple nights ago a friend of mine gave me an ‘aha’ moment when she said “You have fat arms, everyone can see that whether you take your jacket off or not” I thought about it for a second and do you know what… she was right.
I have spent so much time making myself uncomfortable, overheating to boiling point just so I don’t make other people uncomfortable, when in actual fact I don’t think anyone actually cares if I have my arms out or not.
I recently bought a beautiful Aztec maxi dress from yours clothing and I wore it on Wednesday with a denim jacket even though it was scorching hot outside, so in the spirit of this new blog and for all the people I hope will read it, I took off the jacket and went about my day bare armed.
I think this blog will be like therapy to me, I am pushing boundaries for me and for all the other plus size women who don’t think they can wear ‘that’.
I love this maxi dress, I got it in a size 30/32 it was very long so I had to take a couple inches off the bottom, Its big and I have lots of space in it which is nice, it’s such a comfortable and trendy piece for the summer. this dress is still available on the yours clothing website for £32.00
Indulge by day, Indulge by night!
Club indulge organisers arranged a plus size popup market that was held in Kentish Town on Saturday afternoon, I went along with my sister to sell a few bits and see what I could get my hands on for myself, Being at the super plus end of plus size (according to what’s available on the UK highstreet) I was initially doubtful that I would be able to find anything to fit me. I’m happy to say I was pleasantly surprised and came home with quite a few new items (new to me anyway).
A couple of the new items I got include a gorgeous retro corset, a tiered floral mini skirt and a couple of bedroom chemises. see pics…
(me trying on the floral skirt at the event lol)
I was able to hang out with friend and plus size blogger ‘wannabeprincess’, we all had a fun afternoon and came home with some new found treasures.
I encourage you all to try to come along to the next one which I believe is at the last weekend in August, It was a really fun atmosphere and a great opportunity to meet people that might be at the Indulge club nights.
Later that evening…
Club Indulge, a new bbw club in the city held their third event in London’s Barbican, I love the central location mostly because it just minutes from where I live. I went down there with a group of friends and having been to each of the indulge nights so far, I knew it would be a good night.
I wore a black jersey bodycon dress from asos and a floral blazer from simplybe, after ditching the heels before i even left the house I opted for a pair of new look studded flats.
I had a really good night out with lots of friends and lots of wine!
Lets talk about the BodyCon dress,
I am a lover of this type of dress, I see onlys pro’s when it comes to the Bodycon, I think they can be very sexy and I think this has much more to do with the confidence and level of comfort over the actual shape of the body in the dress. By level of comfort I mean picture a girl walking down the street who is clearly uncomfortable in her dress, constantly pulling at it and adjusting, I just think her clear discomfort in the outfit is what makes it unattractive.
I have a few bodycon dresses which I wear proudly on evenings out etc, I love printed bodycons and well as the solid colours, sometimes I wear them with control underwear and sometimes without just depending on my mood. Sometimes I will pair the dress with a jacket and sometimes I don’t….again just depending on my mood.
I feel like this is a good shape dress for anyone with the confidence to wear it. I love wearing these types of dresses, I feel just as comfortable in these as I do in your stereotypical ‘fat appropriate’ dresses, probably even more so… I love fashion and I love shopping for pretty things…so point me towards the clingy, sexy bodycons!
Fat girls shouldn’t wear BodyCon dresses! Oh Really?!!!?